Oprah Life You Want Tour Recap #LifeYouWantNJ

Every Sunday morning at 11 am, I settle into my sofa with a cup of tea and an open mind to watch Super Soul Sunday on Oprah’s OWN channel. I’m a self-development junkie and I love this show because it gives me exposure to new books and spiritual teachers or trailblazers as Oprah refers to them. This weekend was different, I spent it with Oprah and her trailblazers. Wait, let me type that again. I spent the weekend with Oprah and her handpicked trailblazers Elizabeth Gilbert, Iyanla Vanzant, Pastor Rob Bell and Mark Nepo.

Oprah Life You want Tour New Jersey was epic, it was two days filled with resources and activities to inspire and provide you with the tools to live your best life.

As I sat in my seat on Friday night, I was bursting with anticipation for Oprah to step out on stage. It wasn’t just me, everyone was alert and present trying their best to savor the moment. We were all wearing our O  Tour wristbands which made us feel like one and part of a community. It was magical to see the bands change colors and they looked like thousands of stars in the Prudential Center.

Oprah radiated in this gorgeous dress, her aura is beautiful. You could tell that she is genuine and really wants us all to live our best lives. She shared her life story, from a poor girl to a successful woman not to show off but to inspire us to live our best lives and not just exist. Here’s what moved me the most:

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Listen to the whispers in your life

Whether you call it intuition or God’s voice, it’s important to be in tune and listen to the whispers in your life. Listen even when it makes you uncomfortable or even when it doesn’t make any sense. Oprah used examples in her own life such as when she worked as a news anchor and was making $22,000 at 22 and everyone around her believed that it wouldn’t get better than that. She heard the whispers that it would, that she could do better and this wasn’t it for her. She warned that if you ignore the whispers, they would turn into pebbles, then bricks and eventually brick walls.

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Identify your purpose

We must connect the dots of everything we do and then look at the thread to connect the dots to figure out what our purpose is. Oprah used herself as an example, she was always good at talking. She was reading in church at 3, got herself skipped to grade one from kindergarten at 5, landed a job on radio at 16 and was reading the news at 22. We all have a thread that ties everything we have done or do together and once you determine what that thread is, then you can identify your purpose.

Be cautious with your words

I think this was one of the biggest messages of the weekend. Be thoughtful about the words you use when talking to yourself and to others. I am in the process of working on this. I am very encouraging to my friends and family but I am a work in progress when it comes to speaking life and positive words to myself. Maybe this is something we can do together if you struggle with this. I started this morning with positive affirmations in my mirror. As moms, we are teaching our kids how to speak to themselves by example so if I am saying that “I’m look fat” or “I’m so stupid” that’s the way my children will talk about themselves. Oprah encouraged us to use the power of our words to co-create the life that we want. Say it out loud and write it down she encouraged us. Words are just your thoughts out loud so choose the way you think about things because from your thoughts the energy of your life flows.

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Cure your disease to please

This one is a big mommy attribute, it’s hard for us to say no to our friends, children, spouses, coworkers or anyone who we care about. We say yes, when it’s inconvenient or bad for us because we are afraid that saying no would ruin relationships or give people the impression that we are not nice. Oprah used the example of giving a donation to a charity that she didn’t want to but she was afraid they would think she wasn’t nice. It wasn’t until Stedman pointed out that “she wasn’t nice” because she was doing it to please and not because she sincerely wanted to that she realized that she was doing it out of fear and not of love. She encouraged us to set boundaries with the people in our lives or else we would end up lost trying to please everyone but ourselves.

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Oprah with the trailblazers

Hero’s Journey

One of the best parts of the weekend for me was Elizabeth Gilbert’s workshop. I read Eat, Pray, Love a few years ago and I loved the book. Whenever the movie comes on television, I drop everything just to watch it. Following your instincts and leaving everything that you’re comfortable with is hard and I think that’s why so many of us admire Elizabeth. My biggest takeaway from Elizabeth was “If you plan on changing your life, don’t expect it to be easy or painless.” or as Iyanla Vanzant put it “The life you want is on the other side of the labor pains it takes to birth it.” Elizabeth explained that “In between, where you are and living the life you want is a vast dangerous zone. It’s a brave journey. Moving from the old and familiar to the new and unfamiliar.”

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Stop trying to squeeze yourself into something that doesn’t fit you anymore

Talking about Ms. Vanzant, she was one of the trailblazers that I was excited to see. Last year, I cried and rejoiced as I read her book Peace from Broken Pieces, I was pregnant and I couldn’t put the book down. I read it on my commute, while I did my laundry, before I went to bed and during any moment I had a chance to. Her life’s journey and her resilience is intriguing and there is so much to learn from her story, as a mother and as a woman. Her message this weekend was to stop trying to make things, people or circumstances that no longer work for your life fit. We all have friends who we’ve outgrown who we are afraid to let go of. She used the analogy of a dress she bought one size to small convincing herself that she could easily lose 10 pounds to fit into it. She also stressed the importance of forgiving the people in our lives who’ve hurt us so we can move forward without bitterness. Easy to say, hard to do but very necessary for our peace and happiness.

We were all given workbooks to evaluate where we are currently in our lives journey, create a vision for someone who we love dearly and by the end of the day create a new vision for ourselves with all that we learned. I loved the exercises and the affirmations in the workbook. It’s something that I will hold onto for a very long time.

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It wasn’t all workshops. We danced, we sang, we laughed and by the end of the day everyone in the Prudential Center felt like a big family. A family who felt more confident and motivated to live their best lives in a cynical and challenging world. If this tour is coming to a city close to you, I would highly recommend it. I am still on a high and feeling great and I know this feeling will stick around for a while. I commuted 2 hours each way to get to New Jersey for two days and and it was completely worth it for me.

 

About “Oprah’s The Life You Want” Weekend:

“Oprah’s The Life You Want” Weekend is an eight-city arena tour and transformational weekend featuring Oprah Winfrey and a team of special guests, sponsored by Toyota and Olay.  Each tour stop spans two days. On Friday nights, Oprah takes the stage, bringing her personal story and insights to life in a one of a kind intimate evening.  Then on Saturdays, Oprah leads a day-long gathering of thousands with handpicked thought leaders and pop culture icons including Iyanla Vanzant, star of OWN’s hit series “Iyanla Fix My Life,” regular O Magazine contributor, best-selling author and spiritual life coach; best-selling author of Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert; and one of Time 100’s Most Influential people, Pastor Rob Bell. Additionally, world-renowned author and pioneer in mind-body medicine Deepak Chopra will take the stage in select cities.  “Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend” is produced by Harpo Studios, O, The Oprah Magazine, OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network and WME Live, and is presented by Toyota and Olay.

You can purchase tickets www.oprah.com/tour

TOUR STOPS:

Oct. 17-18                 Houston, Texas                   Toyota Center

Oct. 24-25                 Miami, Florida                      American Airlines Arena

Nov. 7-8                     Seattle, Washington           KeyArena at Seattle Center

Nov. 14-15                San Jose, California           SAP Center at San Jose 

 

Are you going to the Life You Want Tour in your city?

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  • I missed out on going when it was in Atlanta. Glad you enjoy yourself girl!

    • RattlesandHeels

      Thanks Lou! I hope she continues to do this ever so often and you can attend next time.

  • Aww…I feel your excitement. I’m so glad you had a great time. Those are great takeaways. Looking forward to seeing you rise and soar. *Hugs*

    • RattlesandHeels

      Thank you Vash!

  • MJ

    Love your recap! Seeing Oprah live is definitely Life changing. I hope her team shares that worksheet online for those of us who couldn’t attends so glad you enjoyed the experience. Can’t wait to see what’s next for you.

    • RattlesandHeels

      That would be awesome if they share it online!

  • I haven’t watched this show, but do catch a couple things on OWN every once in a while. I would watch it more if DirecTV broadcast it in hi-def…

  • Jennifer Van Huss

    I haven’t watched this show, but loved the OPRAH show! I can just imagine how much more enticing this one would be! I think out of all of those the hardest for me is listening to the Whisper. I never know If I should trust or run away!

    • RattlesandHeels

      You have to be in tune with whether it is fear or instinct.

  • Fit Empress

    I went to the kickoff of the tour in Atlanta – it was wonderful! I still haven’t done my review of it yet, but it was an amazing experience. I told my friends in DC to get on it when she came through there. Truly inspirational! I loved her story about writing the letter to her kindergarten teacher that she wasn’t supposed to be in that class and they moved her into 1st grade that very day! And Elizabeth was phenomenal. They all were!

    • RattlesandHeels

      Yes, so glad that I went. I look forward to your recap as well.

  • Rothesia

    Awesome recap, Adanna! I couldn’t help but smile while reading it. I am so happy that you were able to attend this awesome event. It seems like it was very inspirational. I was able to attend the Oprah Show in 2009 so I know what you mean by her aura. I love Iyanla as well and also enjoyed her book, Peace from Broken Pieces. I am happy to have connected with you this year and I wish you continued success!

    • RattlesandHeels

      That’s awesome that you were able to attend the Oprah show before it ended. Same for you Rothesia, wish you the best 🙂

  • MJ

    Had to circle back to this one!
    Be cautious with your words! Amen. I’m speaking to myself, my dream and my goals in positive words only. Thanks for the reminder.