Harmony over Balance: Why I Stopped Trying to Balance it all
If you're already following me over on Instagram, I shared that my theme for the year is Harmony. Harmony came to me about a week ago, I was taking a shower and thinking about all of the things I was considering doing this year, along with all of my commitments both personal and professional. If I do everything, I'm sure to be overwhelmed and if I don't—well, I'm sure to be unhappy. So what's the middle ground? I have to strive for harmony.
If I do everything, I'm sure to be overwhelmed and if I don't—well, I'm sure to be unhappy.
How about just balancing it all?
Years, ago I would have strived for balance instead of harmony. I could work hard, mom hard, wife hard—women have done that for centuries. Well, that's what it looked like when I was younger and what I thought when I first became a mom. A few years ago, I discovered it just doesn't work that easily. Some of you may even remember when I wrote this post about balancing it all, but with more motherhood experience, my thoughts have changed, although the tips I shared can still make a big difference in your life. I found that it just took one small life issue (which is bound to happen) to upset that system.
Balance is a unicorn.
Balance is a unicorn; it will never happen. We will be forever trying to find it but never quite getting it right. So that's where harmony comes into play.
Striving for harmony is less stressful.
Harmony, to me, represents a beautiful & peaceful combination of all aspects of myself in alignment with my creator through my intuition. Balance is a unicorn—it’s not worth the stress &/or anxiety. Harmony is a different energy; it’s release.
I want to live in harmony with everything that encompasses my life! I want to always focus on finding ways to ensure my life doesn't feel chaotic or stressful. I think many of us are struggling with anxiety because we are constantly trying our best to balance it all (and prove that we can). When I read former First Lady Michelle Obama's book Becoming, I realize that if she couldn't do it, then no one in the world was balancing it all. No matter how good it looked from the outside because *even* Mrs. Obama had some really tough days as a mom.
I hope this post takes a little of the stress off of your shoulders to try to achieve balance. Let me know your thoughts below.