I try my best to remain positive everyday to maintain my happiness and focus. Over the years, I have built an arsenal of tools that I use to tackle different life challenges. There are numerous stressors in our life, some are within our control and others that there is nothing we can do to change. I used to be the type of person who would worry about the latter but I’ve come to accept that I can’t fix everything. The key to happiness is the ability to accept the things we cannot change. Much easier said than done, but as the years have gone by I’ve become better. Here are some of my practices.
To start the day on a positive foot, I read the bible, meditate, recite positive affirmations and plan my day. I use the YouVersion app. On my iPad to read the bible, not only is it free but there are tons of great bible plans by popular Spiritual leaders such as Joyce Meyer that you can choose from. After reading, I usually pray and then meditate. My last step is to recite positive affirmations to myself such as “Today will be a good day!” “Life is good!” “I look forward to a productive day!”
When we exercise we release endorphins, a hormone that makes us feel good. To get my endorphin fix, I take my kids for walks and since my neighborhood is quite hilly it serves as good exercise. I also enjoy Pilates, Zumba and running outdoors when I can.
Before I turn into bed I make a list of all the things that I am grateful for in that moment. I also make note of the people in my life that I need to thank. I have found that being grateful is truly joyous and uplifting. It’s also a great way to remain humble and to keep things in perspective.
You’re probably wondering to yourself what food has to do with positivity. We are so used to eating on the go that we fail to acknowledge the effects that our food have on our mind, body and soul. I try my best to eat clean for 6 days and splurge once a week on food that I am craving such as a latte, frozen yogurt, or wine.
Avoid Toxic People or Situations
This is pretty straightforward; I stay away from anyone who carries bad energy and drama.
Last year I was lucky enough to attend a workshop on Visualization that changed my life. While I initially thought it was a useless practice, I have gained so much by practicing it. One of the ways I use this tool is to calm my nerves if I am anxious. I close my eyes and take a vacation to a peaceful place or I confront someone who is doing something that is affecting me.
I’ve found that remaining busy and working towards achieving my dreams keeps me very positive and happy. When I am busy working I do not have the time to over-analyze anything or worry.
Less time spent Watching Television
I must admit I used to be a TV junkie. I watched all of the Real Housewives shows and others that I am not proud to admit publicly. Earlier this year, I stopped watching television and I noticed some major changes. I was more creative, focus, balanced and happier
I am a self-improvement book addict, I have a list in my phone and I am always excited to try a new one. Some of my favorites are The Magic, The Four Agreements, The Linchpin: Are you indispensable, The Seven Laws of Spiritual Success and The Power of Positive Thinking. Please feel free to suggest any that you think I will like.
Creating New Things
When I was a little girl all I did was draw, I have tons of sketchbooks filled with my drawings. I even won competitions. There were times where I stopped drawing and designing new things but I realize that I felt empty during those times. Creating things is part of who I am. I try to create something new every week. Design the space of my boutique, design jewelry, draw sketches for my Fashion Line, and write poems or just random doodling.
I write down my thoughts when I need to organize them or see them. When I have an idea, I get so excited that I need to journal immediately to capture my thought-process and inspiration.
Just like everyone else who has read The Secret, I have a vision board. I find it’s a great way for me to keep my focus on my major life goals. It is very inspiring every time I achieve something on my Vision Board as I am reminded that it’s okay to dream big and not limit myself.
Sometimes when all else fails, you need something that you can look it to be reminded of how amazing you are. I got the idea at a workshop and it’s simple but quite effective especially at work. Collect quotes, pictures and other messages that make you feel happy. I would suggest that if you work in an office, you do one over your desk. It doesn’t have to be over-the-top, it’s just for you in those pressing moments when you really need a hug but can’t get one.
This is how I maintain a positive outlook.
Please, feel free to share your tips with me…